When it comes to love, all of us are blind. Blind by everything around us. Nothing seems more important than that perfect relationship that we're into. We are trying so hard to keep it alive and willing to sacrifice everything for that particular person. But, how would we know if he/she's the one? The one that wouldn't walk away from you, the one that would hold you tight when you're scared, the one that would wipe your tears and tell you everything's gonna' be fine, the one that will be there for you the second you need him/her, and the one that would be sleeping next to you for the next, let's say 50, 100 years? We don't! No one knows. But, still we are willing to take chances and risk it all. Because of this, many of us were hurt before and couldn't bear to go down that path again. Those who are out there that were dumped, cheated on, rejected and even divorced before, might feel miserable and depressed. No one could understand how you felt after going through rough times like that. The feeling where you feel like you want to disappear and forget all about it, to turn back the time and wish you never met him before, the indescribable pain, the tears you dropped for that ungrateful guy, the days you've spent in your room suffering and avoiding the outside world, the urge to get a revenge, and much more. And as a result, some of us are afraid to love again because to love is to trust, and that trust had been shattered to many million pieces. It will never be the same again.
But... a book taught me that taking the greatest risk can bring the sweetest reward. You'll never know what is out there waiting for you if you're afraid to take chances. As the saying goes, "You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore". As I mentioned in my previous post, nothing comes easy in life. I know that if you are willing to take chances and risk it all, doesn't mean you'll succeed. But that's life. We can't always get what we want. And this is where the word "KEEP TRYING" comes in. We can always keep trying and look forward. Eventually, you'll succeed. I don't know when it will come but one thing for sure, mistakes help us to find the right person. Stuck in your past? Try to close that chapter and move on. I won't say it's easy but here's some ways I could suggest:
First, make sure that you are ready to do this. If you're not, then you won't be able to give it a 100% to move on. Be sure that you tell yourself, 'I can do this. I deserve better'. Those of you that got cheated and dumped on, tell yourself "I don't deserve anything less. I've been through enough bullshits in my life. I'm gonna find that person who's going to treat me like I'm worth something, who would listens and cares for me and won't make me cry every night into my pillow. I gave my best to keep the relationship alive but it's you who didn't. So, I deserve someone better. You'll just remain as a memory that I learned from". When you've set your mind, then you are ready to move on. Second step is to keep yourself busy. This way you won't be able to think about that person. Thirdly, keep yourself away from any connections that you had with him/her. Delete his number, pictures, or anything that was related to him. Fourthly, forgive him/her. If you don't, you won't be able to keep your mind off him/her. I know it's tough but keep trying until you can. Next is to meet new people. Go out there and have fun. Never waste your time on something/someone that is not worth having. Then, make some positive changes. Do not be afraid. Sometimes, change may not be what we want but it is what we need. And lastly, ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE. Do not try to be someone else. Sooner or later, your flaws will be ignored and accepted by that one special person. Trust me, it will.
First, make sure that you are ready to do this. If you're not, then you won't be able to give it a 100% to move on. Be sure that you tell yourself, 'I can do this. I deserve better'. Those of you that got cheated and dumped on, tell yourself "I don't deserve anything less. I've been through enough bullshits in my life. I'm gonna find that person who's going to treat me like I'm worth something, who would listens and cares for me and won't make me cry every night into my pillow. I gave my best to keep the relationship alive but it's you who didn't. So, I deserve someone better. You'll just remain as a memory that I learned from". When you've set your mind, then you are ready to move on. Second step is to keep yourself busy. This way you won't be able to think about that person. Thirdly, keep yourself away from any connections that you had with him/her. Delete his number, pictures, or anything that was related to him. Fourthly, forgive him/her. If you don't, you won't be able to keep your mind off him/her. I know it's tough but keep trying until you can. Next is to meet new people. Go out there and have fun. Never waste your time on something/someone that is not worth having. Then, make some positive changes. Do not be afraid. Sometimes, change may not be what we want but it is what we need. And lastly, ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE. Do not try to be someone else. Sooner or later, your flaws will be ignored and accepted by that one special person. Trust me, it will.
So, don't cry over the past because it's gone. Don't stress about your future because it hasn't arrived. Live in the present and make it beautiful because you have the option to do so. Happiness is an option. It's up to you to take it and pursue it. Cheers! :)
